SYS-CON MEDIA Authors: Pat Romanski, Gary Arora, Zakia Bouachraoui, Yeshim Deniz, Liz McMillan

Blog Feed Post

What Does DevOps Have to Do with Parenting?

This article first appeared in Code Like a Girl.

DevOps is many things, and if you ask 10 people what DevOps means you will likely get 20 different answers. The Three Ways of flow, feedback, and continuous experimentation and learning are the principles that drive all values, philosophies, processes, and procedures. These principles can be applied to other areas of life as well. For me, I’ve pulled from my DevOps learning to aide in my parenting journey.


The first way is flow. Information flows from the parents to the child. The parents’ job is to ensure the child gets what they need, how they need it and when they need it. Of course figuring out what those needs can be a challenge. Given a choice of two items, my son will choose one and then immediately change his mind or better yet he chooses something completely different. Understanding the flow of information, we have seen the following benefits:

  • Increased value as we learn what it takes to achieve a certain goal, such as getting out the door for school in the morning.
  • We have identified bottlenecks and constraints in the system. Asking an open-ended question such as “what do you want to eat?” does not yield good results. Offering two or three choices is better, offering no choices works too.
  • We stick to a schedule and announce changes to the schedule ahead of time. With this, our son is aware of what is coming and can prepare for changes such as vacations, or when mom travels for business.


The second way is feedback. For improvement to occur in anything communication needs to take place. All parties involved need to see the outcomes of the work being done. Whether it is a small change or a large change, getting feedback helps things move smoothly. We hold daily retrospectives with our son.  Every night we ask him what his favorite part of the day was, and we share ours. His answers can be surprising, sad, or silly, but they give us insight into his little mind. Through regular feedback loops the following benefits have been achieved:

  • A community of sharing. We share what goes well and what doesn’t go well. Sometimes the favorite part of the day is that the day is over and we can put it behind us, and that’s ok.
  • Because we share information regularly, we have built trust. Through that trust, we are able to collaborate and work together more effectively. Fewer tantrums are better for everyone.
  • When problems occur, we can fix them faster. We have learned the warning signs and can pre-empt problems before they occur. We all know he gets hangry, making sure to always have snacks available eliminates the hangry monster from appearing.
  • We adapt as we learn more about one another. Each day presents new challenges, and even though we plan and prepare things don’t always go as we expect. After leaving a shopping cart full of groceries at the store, I learned to go grocery shopping alone.

Continuous Experimentation and Learning

The third way is continuous experimentation and learning. Only after the first two ways have been implemented can the third way be achieved. We can try new things if we are communicating and open to feedback. Some experiments are successful, and some won’t be. My son doesn’t like crowds, but does this mean we never go out? No. We experiment with situations and give him strategies to help with any anxieties that may crop up. We have learned the signs for when he is overwhelmed, and he knows he can tell us if he needs to leave a crowded area. If we didn’t have trust in the flow of information and a feedback loop in place these ventures would not be successful. As we continue to experiment and learn we experience the following:

  • We practice for uncomfortable situations and learn appropriate ways to respond. Practicing when the stakes are lower is much easier than when they are high.
  • We push ourselves to become more comfortable in uncomfortable situations. We considered it a success when we made it through 80 minutes of a Sounders game.
  • We know where our limits are, when to push through and when to call an audible and change course.


Like DevOps, parenting requires keeping a clear focus on principles, practices, and value. They are iterative processes that require collaboration and continuous improvement. Identify the practices that work for you and enjoy the journey.

The post What Does DevOps Have to Do with Parenting? appeared first on Catchpoint's Blog - Web Performance Monitoring.

Read the original blog entry...

More Stories By Mehdi Daoudi

Catchpoint radically transforms the way businesses manage, monitor, and test the performance of online applications. Truly understand and improve user experience with clear visibility into complex, distributed online systems.

Founded in 2008 by four DoubleClick / Google executives with a passion for speed, reliability and overall better online experiences, Catchpoint has now become the most innovative provider of web performance testing and monitoring solutions. We are a team with expertise in designing, building, operating, scaling and monitoring highly transactional Internet services used by thousands of companies and impacting the experience of millions of users. Catchpoint is funded by top-tier venture capital firm, Battery Ventures, which has invested in category leaders such as Akamai, Omniture (Adobe Systems), Optimizely, Tealium, BazaarVoice, Marketo and many more.

Latest Stories
Every organization is facing their own Digital Transformation as they attempt to stay ahead of the competition, or worse, just keep up. Each new opportunity, whether embracing machine learning, IoT, or a cloud migration, seems to bring new development, deployment, and management models. The results are more diverse and federated computing models than any time in our history.
On-premise or off, you have powerful tools available to maximize the value of your infrastructure and you demand more visibility and operational control. Fortunately, data center management tools keep a vigil on memory contestation, power, thermal consumption, server health, and utilization, allowing better control no matter your cloud's shape. In this session, learn how Intel software tools enable real-time monitoring and precise management to lower operational costs and optimize infrastructure...
"Calligo is a cloud service provider with data privacy at the heart of what we do. We are a typical Infrastructure as a Service cloud provider but it's been designed around data privacy," explained Julian Box, CEO and co-founder of Calligo, in this interview at 21st Cloud Expo, held Oct 31 – Nov 2, 2017, at the Santa Clara Convention Center in Santa Clara, CA.
Isomorphic Software is the global leader in high-end, web-based business applications. We develop, market, and support the SmartClient & Smart GWT HTML5/Ajax platform, combining the productivity and performance of traditional desktop software with the simplicity and reach of the open web. With staff in 10 timezones, Isomorphic provides a global network of services related to our technology, with offerings ranging from turnkey application development to SLA-backed enterprise support. Leadin...
While a hybrid cloud can ease that transition, designing and deploy that hybrid cloud still offers challenges for organizations concerned about lack of available cloud skillsets within their organization. Managed service providers offer a unique opportunity to fill those gaps and get organizations of all sizes on a hybrid cloud that meets their comfort level, while delivering enhanced benefits for cost, efficiency, agility, mobility, and elasticity.
DevOps has long focused on reinventing the SDLC (e.g. with CI/CD, ARA, pipeline automation etc.), while reinvention of IT Ops has lagged. However, new approaches like Site Reliability Engineering, Observability, Containerization, Operations Analytics, and ML/AI are driving a resurgence of IT Ops. In this session our expert panel will focus on how these new ideas are [putting the Ops back in DevOps orbringing modern IT Ops to DevOps].
Darktrace is the world's leading AI company for cyber security. Created by mathematicians from the University of Cambridge, Darktrace's Enterprise Immune System is the first non-consumer application of machine learning to work at scale, across all network types, from physical, virtualized, and cloud, through to IoT and industrial control systems. Installed as a self-configuring cyber defense platform, Darktrace continuously learns what is ‘normal' for all devices and users, updating its understa...
Enterprises are striving to become digital businesses for differentiated innovation and customer-centricity. Traditionally, they focused on digitizing processes and paper workflow. To be a disruptor and compete against new players, they need to gain insight into business data and innovate at scale. Cloud and cognitive technologies can help them leverage hidden data in SAP/ERP systems to fuel their businesses to accelerate digital transformation success.
Concerns about security, downtime and latency, budgets, and general unfamiliarity with cloud technologies continue to create hesitation for many organizations that truly need to be developing a cloud strategy. Hybrid cloud solutions are helping to elevate those concerns by enabling the combination or orchestration of two or more platforms, including on-premise infrastructure, private clouds and/or third-party, public cloud services. This gives organizations more comfort to begin their digital tr...
Most organizations are awash today in data and IT systems, yet they're still struggling mightily to use these invaluable assets to meet the rising demand for new digital solutions and customer experiences that drive innovation and growth. What's lacking are potent and effective ways to rapidly combine together on-premises IT and the numerous commercial clouds that the average organization has in place today into effective new business solutions.
Keeping an application running at scale can be a daunting task. When do you need to add more capacity? Larger databases? Additional servers? These questions get harder as the complexity of your application grows. Microservice based architectures and cloud-based dynamic infrastructures are technologies that help you keep your application running with high availability, even during times of extreme scaling. But real cloud success, at scale, requires much more than a basic lift-and-shift migrati...
David Friend is the co-founder and CEO of Wasabi, the hot cloud storage company that delivers fast, low-cost, and reliable cloud storage. Prior to Wasabi, David co-founded Carbonite, one of the world's leading cloud backup companies. A successful tech entrepreneur for more than 30 years, David got his start at ARP Instruments, a manufacturer of synthesizers for rock bands, where he worked with leading musicians of the day like Stevie Wonder, Pete Townsend of The Who, and Led Zeppelin. David has ...
Darktrace is the world's leading AI company for cyber security. Created by mathematicians from the University of Cambridge, Darktrace's Enterprise Immune System is the first non-consumer application of machine learning to work at scale, across all network types, from physical, virtualized, and cloud, through to IoT and industrial control systems. Installed as a self-configuring cyber defense platform, Darktrace continuously learns what is ‘normal' for all devices and users, updating its understa...
Dion Hinchcliffe is an internationally recognized digital expert, bestselling book author, frequent keynote speaker, analyst, futurist, and transformation expert based in Washington, DC. He is currently Chief Strategy Officer at the industry-leading digital strategy and online community solutions firm, 7Summits.
Addteq is a leader in providing business solutions to Enterprise clients. Addteq has been in the business for more than 10 years. Through the use of DevOps automation, Addteq strives on creating innovative solutions to solve business processes. Clients depend on Addteq to modernize the software delivery process by providing Atlassian solutions, create custom add-ons, conduct training, offer hosting, perform DevOps services, and provide overall support services.